Done hiding

For a long time I hid.  Out of shame.  Out of fear.  Out of "What if I can't find a job?"
I used to work with kids, being terrified that some parent would discover my artwork or performance and deem it unacceptable because I deal with gender and sexuality.  This fear kept me partially employed, mostly underpaid, and artistically constipated in the US.  Now I live in Europe.  I don't want to work with children anymore.  I have ceased to be good at it.  Plus, I got a little lax with my website.  (More like turned into a self-respecting artist who is proud of her work.)  The job that I had got "concerns from parents," and let me go.  I wasn't so upset.  I miss the cash, but I hated the job.
So now, I just have to go for it.  I moved to a country where I wasn't a citizen, where I didn't speak the language to have more freedom as an artist. So this is how it will be, I guess.  No more fear.  I am hosting a queer, radical and sometimes explicit cabaret, I am making art and performance about gender and sexuality.  I have not "chosen" a life on the margins of society.  I have finally accepted who I am, and am now trying to make a buck, with honesty, not pretending to be somebody else.  Not hiding.

Let me be clear.  This isn't about me wanting to post pictures of drunken nights on Facebook (not that there's anything wrong with that.  This is about me finally believing that my art, my thoughts, my radical and weird self is worth something.
I am tired of the double standard that goes on.  How when men express their sexuality, our society sees this as "normal," but when a woman does the same thing she should "be careful." 
"Why do you have to focus on gender and sexuality all the time?" My straight friends ask me, baffled by my seeming obsession.  Let me explain.  Let me be clear.  We see examples of the hetero-normative life everywhere: movies, television, popular theater, art and advertisements.  What about those of us whose hopes and dreams do not fit into the "marriage, children, own a house" dream?
What about those of us who do not think that, should we have a child, that child should be raised in a two-parent situation but rather by a community?  What about those of us who ride between the gender lines, who are not fulfilled by choosing one or the other?  Who is going to represent those who live outside of the hetero-normative if not ourselves.
I am done hiding. One more angry feminist?  Yes please.